How fast time flies...

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Lol.  This blog has had many restarts, re-layouts, etc.  Now it's ressurrected again.

Lots of changes, folks.

First off, my kids are now teens.  Both of them.  Fine young men.  Too weird now, even for me.

Big laugh.  Couldn't believe they were little boys when I started this blog.

Now they are strapping young men.

The online landscape has changed a lot too. As in, a lot.

When I started this blog, my youtube vids coughed and sputtered.  As I now noticed, I missed that era posting here.  My posts don't have much video. Oh you would have had so much fun with my boys' video finds then.  But that was that.

Now everyone's on phones.  Phones!  My gosh.  Now there's Snapchat, Vine, Instagram, Line, Viber, the list is endless.  Everyone's on phones now, I kinda find it sickening.  It kind of relieves me when I find excuses to not use the phone.

But the parenting. The parenting never changes.

Now one son lives away from me.  He's eighteen now.  But we collaborate about work and life over FB chat.  Now he's my FB son. lol.  My other son is still with me, but weirder than ever, and he's comfortable in his own skin about it.  He still teaches me a lot of things about life,and love, just by being his weird self.

My niece, my surrogate daughter, will also start college soon.

Sigh.  Life.  Too fast.  I guess right now, coming back to this blog of an "empty house," a lot of memories are now tumbling down on my consciousness.  I realize we can only really live for moments,  There are chunks of moments that seem like a phase, but each one, is just a brief moment.

And life goes on.

And this blog will also go on.

A little bit learned about motherhood, a lot about being uncertain.  As I grow on coping with growing young adults, there is a lot of uncertainty in my head now.

We can only live for each moment.


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Looking for London accommodations?

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So I looked around the net and found that Robert and Polly Arnold can find London apartments for you, as well as give you tips and tricks in getting around London, finding places to visit, and answering any questions you might have about London. 

Robert and Polly have lived all their lived in London, and aim to give visitors a pleasant stay in London.  So far, so good.  I want my Aunt to have someone to approach just in case she has trouble getting around, so that's a big plus for me.  I also want my aunt to have a family-oriented guide to point her to the sights of London.  I'm sure Robert and Polly Arnold will also help her have a comfortable stay with their recommended apartments. I am impressed that they themselves visit the place of lodging, and that if they themselves won't stay with their children, they won't recommend it to their clients.  Their profile says they have 22 years of helping out London visitors, so that's a plus.  And honestly,  I trust them because they have three kids.  I always have a preference for a family-oriented business. 

I'm giving their number to my aunt and hope they hit things off well. 

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Another birthday...

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I can't believe my teen is now 15!

I saw my old post about Isiah's birthday in 2008 and wow... time does fly.

Well, Isiah's 15 today and things are still quite smooth sailing.

No honors in school this year, but that's alright.
He is passionate about his music more than ever. I admire that he regularly sets aside time to study and practice music on his own.
He is not as relationship-crazy or girl-crazy the past months, I wonder why.
He is totally into new-age yikies like meditation and chakras.
Seems like he is generally enjoying his school and friends.

I do bare my fangs for him mostly over his chore of washing the dishes, but that's about it. Yeah, boring.

But for this kind of boring, I am totally grateful. Yay.

Happy birthday son. Thank you for honoring my life with your presence. Love always,

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You Know They've Grown Again When....

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On a Friday, one son has a 3-day camp in school, and the other one booked himself to go over to the cousins. The past years, when one son sleeps over, at least one son remains. Now they're both gone.

This is even if you scheduled a trip to a family-friendly venue, like the National Museum. And you didn't win the mental arm wrestling for at least one son to accompany you.


Dalaga na talaga si Katya.

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The Eternal War between Parents and Teens?

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What is this hang-up of parents about handling teens?

Why should they always be at war? Why should there be divisiveness?

It's something I don't get, why parents and teens should always take a swing at each other.

I think so far, at the homefront, me and my teen are getting along fine. The war between parents and teens can be skipped, my opinion.

I can't really say it's about starting the relationship right from the very beginning. My teen has suffered the brunt of all my angry years when he was small. If there's any child who has the perfectly reasonable excuse to harbor some long-time anger at a parent, it's him.

But I have paid my dues, and I have assured him of my apologies and I have made up from all my wrong-doings.

So far, now, we are okay. Of course, there are times that I do my usual sermon, but nothing that bad that usually burdens the toxic teen-parent relationship.

How do I do it?

By just letting him be. And by clarifying I don't do it because I want him happy always and don't want him to get cross at me, but I do it because I respect him and his decisions.

Maybe most wars between teens and parents are from those that do not recognize the autonomy of the teen. I dunno. I don't want to find out what it is. I'm good where we are right now.

Sometimes I feel guilty and wonder if I'm spoiling him... but then, he is doing well in school and has a stable group of okay friends and continuously studies his passion, music. Maybe it's just the right thing to do.

Of course, I keep a watchful eye. There are some things he does that I don't agree with but still don't say anything if I estimate it's not major. Sometimes he gets surprised that i disagree with one of his decisions, because I just let it be.

Eh... teens are thinking people. The most you can do is watch out, guide to prevent bad things from thinking, assure that you're there in the background for easy back-up when things go awry, and guide how to get out if there's trouble. Be there before, during and after in the periphery. It's mostly about them building their confidence, strengthening the bones of their wings while you are in the background. They fly a bit, come back, fly a bit, come back. And they tend to fly more when they know you are there to fly back to.

Hope my goodluck keeps up. *cross fingers*

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Kindling our Kid's Dreams

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I'm a little concerned over my sons' lack of "I wanna be a sumpting when I grow up."

I just realized it when I was bugging Ice (My teen's new nick. Kewl, eh.) what course he was going to take in college. He is now a high school junior and some universities are accepting applications from 3rd year students.

He is now thinking of ... surprise.... social science. Both his parents are social science double majors. Where do you suppose he got this interest? From the teacher, of course, not his parents.

And so, recently, I've also been bugging the second son what he wants to be when grew up. I have always thought there was only 1 career that I would REALLY mind if any of them wanted it (i won't say what it is)... but anything else is alright.

To my semi-horror in his pre-school years, Leon wanted a noble yet life-risking career. He wanted to be a fireman. I hosed down his dream by telling him about the reality of the fireman's career in this country. Bad mommy award. (Whut?  I want him alive, you know.) Now he is more somber and has chosen to not choose at all.

Recently though we had a adopted a cute little bugger cat that likes to chew everyone out literally, except him.

So earlier today Leon announced he wanted to be a.. janan! veterinarian.

Kewl. Bites, etc. fine. Fires no.

Now how to sustain that interest....

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