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One of the things I wished for my sons is to at least inherit my skin type. Unlike their sperm donor who was zitty through his teen-age years, my skin was quite problem free. While my classmates agonized over zits and face treatments, I breezed through my teen years with clear skin. I can have all those “cursed stimulants” to grow zits: menstruation, sleeping late, eating oily food and chocolate, but I came out unscathed.

I think my wish has been granted, so far. Jonesy’s skin is low maintenance and his face doesn’t breakout, only occasionally. I have bought him mild skin cleansers but he does not use these, just the usual bath soap. I hope 9 year old will have it as easy.

Sometimes I would catch Jonesy staring at the mirror for an hour. I know what that means. He is mulling over a pimple. I would cut his silence short “Oi! Don’t even think about touching that!” For us with similar skin types, the usual remedy for a pimple is :

1) Don’t touch it. Leave it alone
2) Let the pimple dry naturally with the usual face washing and bath. The skin will be blemish-free in a few days.
3) Touching it or doing something to it leaves scars and heals longer. So what’s the point?

That’s just for me and the spawns of my loins with similar DNA, though.

If your son’s skin is having things bad with acne or other skin problems, note that it MAY or may not cause bad feelings for him. As adults we may pooh-pooh acne for our kids, knowing that beauty is skin deep. It’s tough enough being a teen-ager finding one’s place in the world. It’s worse when you have to go about and your peers look at you and see your skin, instead of what you are down inside.

For our young men and ladies, acne is a serious matter and it may be distracting them from being in the moment.

If your son’s acne seems bad and you notice he seems to be getting affected by it, you may want to suggest or go with him to see a skin care specialist. Shop around for a dermatologist or skin care center empathetic to young people. Yeah I know, they treat skin, not people’s self-esteem, but if you can get a doctor who can be nice to your kid, the better that would be, right?

Also, if your kid is getting emotionally bothered with severe acne, find tactful (non-invasive) ways to be there for him. You can make him feel good about other stuff, such as his hobbies, sports, or academics. (This is our main task as parents, anyway. Acne or none.)

Strengthen his belief in himself, so much so that eventually he feels great facing himself in the mirror, whatever his skin's situation is.

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