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Real Boys : Book by William Pollack

I am currently reading "Real Boys" by William Pollack. It's an old book, published in 1998, but the issues are as real as today, as it was years ago.

I am just at chapter 5, but the book validates my gut feel all along. To treat boys as carefully and thoughtfully as you would girls. Recognize the differences between them though. Girls are talky2 and more affectionate, while boys are more energetic and action-oriented.

Boys can never have too much love. They have fallen into the Boy Code trap for so long, they have been left lonely and afraid, behind the mask of toughness.

Boys need moms, they need dads. Single moms can raise a son as well, as long as the mom clarifies to herself what is her stand on masculinity.

So far, I have learned that you as a parent, should trust your instincts on the best way how to raise boys. You know your son and yourself best. You can teach the values you would want your son to have.

Can't agree more. I look forward to finishing it. In fact, I carry the book everywhere in the house, so that I can easily reach for it when I have the spare time.

It's a good read. Do pick up a copy if you see one.

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